The nature of relationships: Cheating.

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  1. KittensKill

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    What counts as cheating?
    Why do people cheat?
    Can the person being cheated on be at fault?
    How many people can be in a relationship?
    Why do people remain with partners who have cheated on them, is it just giving them permission to cheat again?

    Cheating: it makes a relationship sound like a game.
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    What counts as cheating? Kissing, dating, sleeping with someone (generally in secret) when you're in a relationship with another person
    Why do people cheat? They're not happy with what they've got I guess, and too scared to end their current relationship
    Can the person being cheated on be at fault? Depends on the specific scenerio
    How many people can be in a relationship? Two's best
    Why do people remain with partners who have cheated on them, is it just giving them permission to cheat again? Because they're desperate. Because they believe that the other person is genuinely sorry.
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    I'm in a relationship, and I kiss other people, and make no secret of it, and I can **** other people if I wanted to.

    In other words, yes, the person being cheated on can be at fault.
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    Depends on the terms that the people make. There is no one true definition to what cheating is.
    An inner desire to do what's "bad", to get revenge, because they're not getting enough attention, etc. There are many reasons.
    Only at half fault. One bad deed doesn't justify another.
    As many people as all in the relationship are comfortable with. Personally, I'm the type to be in a 1 on 1 relationship.
    Sometimes they're just naive, sometimes they feel the person has changed, and other times they secretly like the person cheating on them. In the case of the last one, I'd say it gives them permission to do it again. Then again, I don't know how it could be cheating with permission.

    That's very true. The thing is that the people who cheat most likely do see it as a game.
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    Cheating = anything that you wouldn't do infront of, or letting them know of before-hand with anyone other than your partner.

    People want things they cant have. or... are not allowed to have. So, out of rebelion, out of selfishness, out of [fill in the blank]
    No.
    Retaliation isn't really the best idea anyway.
    What type of relationship is it?
    I would guess however many people are comfortable and are wanted in the relationship?
    denial. attention. trust issues. etc.
    People learn to deal with things they don't like, especially from people that they love, or think they love.
    who was the guy that said, "love is just a game"?
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    Well I guess then that it depends on whether your partner knows or not. If it's in secret, then yes, it's pretty much cheating
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    But if your partner knows, then its not cheating?
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    I think cheating is kawl
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    Explain "kawl"
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    You're kidding?
    You think its cool to hurt people who love you?
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    well i think i dont need to be with only 1 person ,this is so sick, we always have "another choice"
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    But to intentionally hurt someone?
    that is cruel.
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    not like that i dont wanna hurt people,i dont tell they about my cheating,i dont wanna hurt,i even think is cool hurt who loves me cuz no one loves me
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    thats even more cruel.
    A good relationship is based on open and honest communication.
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    I take it you've never been cheated on. You don't now how horrible it feels to find out that your partners been doing things behind your back with someone else....it makes you feel unstable in future relationships and can often lead to finding it hard to trust people.
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    I've both cheated (feed me to the wolves) and been cheated on.
    When I was cheating on an ex, it made me physically sick to my stomach. I made myself sick.
    I was on edge all the time because I knew I was destined to get caught, and it just... sucked.

    on the flip side, being cheated on was different.
    I did have that gut-wrenching Im-not-good-enough shock that I knew I had delivered to the guy id cheated on.

    What comes around goes around.
    you cheat on one guy.
    One day one guy cheats on you with four different girls. (not to say names or anything, because thats below me, but...)
    MARK. CASEY. MUST. DIE.
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    Odd, you hate someone for doing something you say you did yourself. Thou without sin cast the first stone. In this case you have the exact same "sin".
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    You tell 'em biblical as8raios.
    I'll just polish my sling for ya later. :p
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    Thats what i was pointing out.
    I got what was coming to me.
    You reap what you sow.
    someone out there is thinking SHAKESPEARE. MUST. DIE.
    and they have every right to.
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